This story is about how a mommy and daddy went to buy a van so they could prepare for the bigger family. And how when they went to the "car store" (she was three-ish at the time) they got to look at hundreds of cars and see which one they wanted.

If the car used to much gas, they could get one that used less. If they didn't like the tires, they could change those. They could even change the color of the car.

Later in the story when the baby comes around, the baby grows up to need glasses. And I basically explained in the story that mommy and daddy can choose the car, but we don't get to choose our bodies.

We don't get to walk around a huge lot of bodies and say, "Oh, I'm going to have that one because it will make me a faster runner." We get stuck with the body we're born in and we have to deal with everything, including the bad stuff.

What a wonderful way of explaining to kids using an anecdote, how we often times get broken bodies either at birth or later on in life and how we cant control it.

My daughter knows i wear diapers. She is 4 years old. at her age, especially with her in pull ups and not close to potty training yet, she just thinks im a strange adult who wear diapers. she is too young to understand the why of it. what i do know is that she still loves me, she still respects me, still comes to me for her 4 year old needs and our relationship nor her view of me hasnt changed. She just asks me every time she gets told to go and try to potty, : daddy, you need to go potty too?

one day she will be at an age to understand if she asks, why i have to wear diapers. in the mean time, i have discovered the why isnt important. im okay with being strange as long as she loves me.

So many of us incontinent folks have been primed by society to be ashamed of having urine or fecal control issues and having to use diapers. we grew up with the knowledge that only babies wear diapers so diapers are grouped with babies in our sub conscious.  Its the shame that causes us to fear what our kids will do when they find out daddy or mommy has issues getting to the potty on time or in my case and others, not at all because the incontinence is so severe and we wear diapers to deal with it.

it is in this society that we say with confidence usually to our selves that babies and diapers are cute. part of that "i totally need you dad and mom stage". its only when our kids grow up and start moving towards being an adult that they become part of a society that look at diapers and incontinence as being a shameful problem. a silent problem. something we dont talk about or learn to be funny about.

I once knew and older elderly gentleman who had reached a stage in his life where he needed to wear diapers. one day his grandson who still had accidents and needed a pull up, walked in on him in the bathroom and saw him changing his diaper. The little kid walked up to his grand dad and asked matter of factly: " why grandpa do you wear diapers. The gentleman paused and thought for a second, trying to fathom a way to answer his grandson in a way he'd understand. he eventually settled on something: When you get as old as i am you find that some times you cant find the potty in time or even sometimes where one is. the grandson smiled and then said: grandpa if you ever need help finding the potty, just ask me. ill help you. Sometimes i cant make it in time too. we can find it together.

Kids have to be taught to see differences as something to be teased. as long as we teach them right and as long as we dont treat diapers as something to be ashamed of, our kids will treat diapers and accidents as something that is part of life no matter if you are a 5 year old an elderly gentleman or a 30 year old guy like me.

In closing im thankful that as my daughter continues to grow up to be a kid, she will be like that kid in the story and offer to help me find the potty rather than question my adult hood because i have to wear diapers. 
 


Comments

02/21/2013 7:59am

Loved this post! The anecdote is a great way of telling children that sometimes we just don't have control over our body and how it functions. I'm sure that your daughter will continue to love and accept you for who you are - diapers or no diapers - as she gets older.

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kevin cline
05/08/2013 12:02am

I'm truly blessed. We have a wonderful and close relationship that grows everyday. Thank you for the comment.

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Dave
05/07/2013 2:05pm

Yea really liked this post I have not got kids yet but it did put a smile on my face
I am still struggling to meet a girlfriend I trust to tell that I still need nappies I am still hopeful

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kevin cline
05/08/2013 12:09am

If she truly loves you, the nappies/diapers wont matter one bit. Meaning you will know you found the right one when the person can accept that you wear nappies/diapers. We all get old/wrinkly/bald/fat/ugly/impotent/flatulence from hell/no libido/lose our teeth and yes deal with incontinence a mate meant for us will accept the good for the bad knowing its all down hill from there. We come into this world as babies and most of us leave this world as babies.

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nice ! thank you !
05/09/2013 10:13pm

very nice to read . i also need to wear diapers and nice to read the positive attitude .. i tend to get a little negativve a bout it . thank you !

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jeff
08/29/2013 8:36am

I wear diapers 24/7 coz of stomach problem

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jeff
08/29/2013 8:42am

Have a girlfriend in the philippines she understands and loves me anyway , please watch my YouTube video jeff and jeramie help me fight for customer service for the taxes we already pay!!

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jimmy
08/31/2013 10:03pm

I had prostate surgery.i had bed wetting issues before surgery.i have to wear diapers 24/7.1st week bothered me.then got used to it.also have stress incontinence.wife does not like but understands i have to wear.we make jokes about it.she calls me swishy pants,captain krinkle.i have no control.it is bad when rains,toilet flushes,it rains,pumping gas.she knows i use poise long pads in them.i had to tell her @ 8 i was caught in bathroom playing in diaper by mom.i tried to hold door, but only long enough to get one side undone and throw behind door
She found it and told my dad.he called me to there bedroom,there on bed was diaper,pins,powder.he made mom take clothes off and told me to lie on bed.i did she lifted my leggs and slid under me powdered and pinned it.i had to go show brothers and sister,then sent out to play outside in tee and diaper,also had to sleep in front of them and given bottle to drink.had to wear awhile because of wetting.there is more.

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jimmy
08/31/2013 10:07pm

I have son and he understands why i have to wear.he said it is ok dad i do love you.

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jimmy
08/31/2013 10:28pm

I also have to wear rubber pants to and absorbant pad on bed.when this happened i already had other issue from childhood that is hard for wife to deal with.would love to hear what others have to say.

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kevin cline
08/31/2013 10:36pm

As a life long wearer and former Foster child, I can attest to things being pretty tough. Thanks 4 sharing Jimmy.

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jimmy
08/31/2013 10:44pm

You are welcome.can i ask you something .people at work know as well as my family.we tease about it.my mom is big cut up.i also have to wear support hose.they are pantyhose go all the way up.

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kevin cline
08/31/2013 10:45pm

What is the question?

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