This website and blog are dedicated to this villain I fight and all the other men women and children who deal with this issue, in silence, alone and in shame. For me as embarrassing as this issue is and as hard as it is to talk about, I chose to come out of the proverbial closet because I believe its high time that this issue be out in the open to help take some of the stigma off.
Like folks with intellectual disabilities, or Autism, or spinal cord injuries or Traumatic Brain Injury, Cerebral Palsy, Dystonia, Dyslexia and all others, people dealing with incontinence and diapers, whether severely disabled, elderly, a child or a young adult (male) like me have our own battles to fight.
It’s a battle for dignity and acceptance, inclusion, compassion, understanding and empathy. We all have value. We all have dreams and aspirations. Many of us are parents…or own businesses, or are executives, or teachers. Many are women but plenty are men. We have our challenges like shopping in paranoia at store for our diapers one isle removed from the parents with smiles on their face picking out diapers for their babies and toddlers. For those of us like me who are parents, often times we go down that isle before or after we shop for ourselves and our reminded of our own limitations. We also take up the challenge of locating the nearest bathroom to change when we need to. Some like me get tired of the embarrassment at the store and go through a medical supply company and get our diapers shipped to us but that doesn’t remove the villain this post is talking about. We still have incontinence and we still have to exist and live in a world that says be nice to the disabled but yet it doesn’t realize that the world excludes us at the same time. We have our challenges for sure. This website and blog will be the door to the closet I’m coming out of so to speak and it is my hope it will help be a voice for the disabled, those who exist, not by our choice, beneath the people and society which claim to want us at their “level”, yet removes the ladder before we can climb up.