So why am I bothered? I am bothered because my daughter feels ashamed for something she cant control. I am bothered because I know its not us that causes this shame...it is the work of society, that has a penchant for shaming what is different and for what it doesnt understand. Society deals with bedwetting and incontinence issues as if something to be ashamed of and that really bothers me. I can only imagine that my daughter has overheard stuff at school or witnessed a kid at school have an accident and be teased for it and its caused her to be very self conscious all of a sudden.
This morning she woke up having wet the bed and after she got washed up and changed into clothes for school we both noticed she looked very sad and we asked her what was wrong...she just said she was sad and she was sorry. we asked her what she was sad about and why she was sorry...she just started crying and said she was sorry for peeing in her pants and she was sad because she kept peeing in her sleep and felt like a baby. I gave her a hug and I reminded her that some of us have problems getting to the potty at night and some like daddy, our pee and/or poop in the potty during the day. its just the way we are. Its okay to be different even when society tells us its not okay.
Being a bedwetter doesnt make her a baby any more than my bladder and bowel control problems make me a baby. I am just an adult who happens to wear a diaper and she is a kid who still has problems getting up to go potty at night. We also reminded her that we are not upset with her or disappointed in any way...
Damn you society.